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Soucheray: A holy week to reflect on values

This week is considered to be Holy Week for Christians and likely everyone will be affected in some way. Your children may have a day off of school, the roadways and stores may be busier, and of course, Easter purchases are abounding. But is there something deeper and more compelling for those who are, or are not, Christian?

No matter what a person or family espouses as central values, we all have them. I remember taking the elective "Relationship Techniques" in college and writing a paper, in which I proposed that I could teach school without sharing values. The paper was returned with its grade and simply the words at the top, "Good luck!"

We all have an ethic by which we live, whether we are able to articulate and admit it or not. There are guiding principles that direct our lives, whether we believe they are present or not. Something steers us toward the choices and decisions we make. They are not simply random, even if we want to believe that or not.

So doesn't it make sense to realize that the direction our life takes is in large part due to the preferences and selections we advocate? It seems there would be less blame and more of a realization of responsibility, less fault-finding and more acceptance of our own part in how things worked out.

As we read one news story after another involving young people today, even as young as 12, we see decisions being made with very little thought or introspection. It seems that the driving force behind many of these decisions is how they will post on YouTube and Facebook. The concern seems to be how many viewers their ludicrous and outrageous activity and behavior will garner, how many hits it will have, with little or no concern about how others are affected by the potentially dangerous actions.

This must be a concern to us all. These children and young people are the future of our world, and if we think we can live our lives as adults, values-free, we are mistaken. Our children are observing and learning from us. They are in a classroom with us everyday and we must ask ourselves what kind of teachers we are.

This is Holy Week for Christians, a faith tradition that promotes values inherently concerned with serving others. If you choose to participate in religious activities or not, know Christians have a desire for something concrete to direct their decisions and their lives. Let us spend time this week thinking about the values we are living and ask if we are providing an example for others to emulate.

Soucheray is a Woodbury resident and a licensed family therapist