Soucheray: Need to argue? Consider this tack
Probably the most common reason couples identify for seeking therapy is a lack of thoughtful, considerate communication. They say they don't know how to talk to each other so that both partners feel they have been heard, or how to share their feelings so that no one gets upset. Generally they report that the discussion quickly turns into an argument, someone says something hurtful and then there is just more to be angry about.